@AnarchoNinaWrites

RE: https://jorts.horse/@AnarchoNinaWrites/116025779715350214

@eclairwolf that is a terrifying description what the fuck

I really hope that it helps! you’re being a lot braver than I would be by even trying this therapy

I've seen people here and there talk about receiving massive amounts of harassment on Fedi for being some marginalised group, whether that's queerness, gender, race, or something else, often leading to them leaving. The most recent one was from a woman with multiple times my followers, but I've also seen the sentiment from people with a fraction of mine

While I don't go into their replies saying this because it'd be rude as hell, I just don't seem to get harassed. Replies I get to my posts seem genuine, ernest, understanding, and thoughtful, and I can count the nasty DMs I've gotten over my 3+ years on fedi on one hand (with fingers left over for a mug of cocoa). Nastiness that finds me tends to be individuals I'm asking to not whitewash poc or to use CWs to not retraumatise marginalised folks, but that's at most once every month or two. I'm part of 5ish marginalised identities yet seem to get less harassment than a bunch of people with only 1, and it's got me thinking a bit

Cutie.city is a fairly lax instance when it comes to blocks, so either our mayor does some seriously pinpoint precision work combined with future sight or that's probably not the main cause of not getting harassment. It could be that those people with 1 marginalised identity are more marginalised than my 5 combined, but irl, at least, one of mine can't even use bathrooms in government buildings, and I share some identities with people I've seen speak about being harassed so that's probably no it either I've had multiple posts hit 3 digit boosts, and it's not like I make don't make tons of posts that have room for reply guys

Thinking about it, the conclusion I come to is that all of you who follow me are to thank for my experience on Fedi. Not only do you yourselves engage with me in ways that make my time enjoyable, the circle of connections you have also seem to be relatively safe for my posts to be boosted into

Thank you all for that because it's made me fall in love and stay in love with Fedi for over 3 years now, through multiple instance migrations and through various difficulties (both on and offline), and made me feel like this is home for me in a chaotic world where home is hard to find Please continue being kind to me and to each other~

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Something that happens a lot online is that people hear an argument, mentally replace it with a similar-sounding but different argument and start arguing against that.

What I'm describing is basically a strawman, yeah, but it's a lot more unconscious and less actively malicious than how you'd typically imagine a strawman argument.

When Prokopetz called out a similar tendency, he called it "refusing to engage with each others shorthands" and that's a pretty good way of describing it.

Like, a specific example I've seen a lot is "nazis can't be punk" (with the context making it very clear it's not intended as a statement of fact but a statement of intent, that is, saying nazis should have no place in punk) being interpreted as "no punks are ever nazis" (not really what anyone was implying in this context).

This is a good illustration of what's meant by "refusing to engage with someone elses shorthand". "Nazis can't be punk" is a shorthand for a stance on who should and shouldn't feel welcome in punk spaces and pretty much everyone who's actually involved in the conversation knows what's meant, the nazis certainly know, though they pretend not to as a rhetorical tactic.

Obviously, if people are implying that there's never been rightwing punks, that's worth calling out as factually incorrect, but people sometimes get so caught up in Being Right that they'll literally run interference for nazis to do it.

@SuperDicq

RE: https://minidisc.tokyo/notes/aieatimxnp

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