i don’t like when reviews are framed through an assumed lens of cynicism. endless youtube clickbait titles like “your art is shit,” “why your music isn’t as good as you think,” and “i hate poetry” attached to some well-edited 3 hour rant about everything negative. maybe they include a few positive things – especially when leading the video – to give the illusion of a nuanced, well-informed take. it probably does have fairly deep analysis on all the aspects they find problematic.

i complain about things a lot. however, if you know me well enough, you’ll know that i actually complain more about things that i like – games, music, movies that i love are less safe around me than things that i genuinely don’t like. it’s a quirk of mine that has endlessly confounded family, friends, and partners. the reason i criticize the thing i love is because – while i do find that thing genuinely inspiring and worthy of praise – it’s not perfect and finding its flaws it genuinely not an easy task for me. i want to see nothing but good in it because it’s something i enjoy. but it also brings me closer to what i love to recognize it for what it is: flawed but still lovable.

conversely, i will try to find good in anything that i don’t like (provided i don’t find it ethically abhorrent. punch nazis). this is either equally or more difficult than the previous task. when something is more flaw than gem, it’s difficult to see what good it does have.

circling back to “criticizing fucking everything and being overwhelmingly negative”: it’s boring, its useless, and i think it makes the world a worse place. disliking something and listing all the things you don’t like about something is fine. even better when you can give alternatives to how that thing can be improved! i believe that’s called constructive criticism. but genuinely tearing something down for the sake of tearing it down sucks. assuming that it’s not harmful, art and creation should be celebrated in all its forms even if you dont like it. creating is hard and requires a lot of courage. it requires public vulnerability which, known by most of us who spend our lives on the internet, is fucking difficult and scary. criticism, on the other hand, is much less vulnerable. you don’t need to confess deeply held beliefs or fragile emotions.

i’m not saying criticism in general is bad, to be clear. i just don’t like when its framed as “your X sucks” or “why Y is terrible.”

I’ve seen some people suggest they don’t like the idea of using any sorts of labels that establish an official definition for their relationships because they feel that privileges some relationships over others

I think that is totally fair and a reasonable way to live one’s life

I also think if you and someone else want to use an official title for your relationship with one another (e.g. boyfriend, pet, babysitter, sister, etc.), that’s totally fair and reasonable as well

if all involved parties are happier and more comfortable defining their relationships one way or another, they should

after all, what good are relationships that we don’t find as mutually fulfilling as possible?

Source: https://www.tumblr.com/muzzlesbian/792273075964116993

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me watching a movie or show: ughh this is another one of those netflix trauma shows that’s trying to gouge as many bad emotions out of me as it can. pass

me listening to music or during sex: i do not want to be recognizable as the same after this is over

okay i’ve been on fedi a while but i think i actually have a bunch of others i’m interacting with who don’t know me so i’m making another intro post

hi!!!! i’m rowan, a complete disaster anarchist vegan audhd kitsunegirl artist / game dev / literally whatever sounds interesting. in other words, i’m completely insufferable!! as for identity: i’m a nb trans fem voidpunk. i’m also polyam and t4t sapphic/lesbian (not that any of this is a surprise around These Parts of fedi ). i’m also a switch and occasionally post about my kinks (or very infrequently, i’ll write little lewd/kinky stories).

i apologize compulsively, i have low self esteem, and i’m diagnosed with half of the dsm5 with the other half pending. i’m told that i’m really weird in a cute way but i only believe the weird part. if you wanna know more about this you’ll have to ask, sorry :3

i’m working on a (not so) Super Secret Videoed Game and will occasionally post about that. in fact, i’m usually working on something because it’s really hard for me to not feel productive, so expect lots of that!