Iāve seen some people suggest they donāt like the idea of using any sorts of labels that establish an official definition for their relationships because they feel that privileges some relationships over others
I think that is totally fair and a reasonable way to live oneās life
I also think if you and someone else want to use an official title for your relationship with one another (e.g. boyfriend, pet, babysitter, sister, etc.), thatās totally fair and reasonable as well
if all involved parties are happier and more comfortable defining their relationships one way or another, they should
after all, what good are relationships that we donāt find as mutually fulfilling as possible?
been stuck in a state of limbo between being too tired to work and being too awake to sleep for a few hours now and honestly, this is probably the absolute worst possible state of existence to live in that doesnāt involve sickness, injury, or threat to life
as our Python and Java and Frontend and Backend and AI developer devops engineer administrator you must have 30+ years of experience in:
me watching a movie or show: ughh this is another one of those netflix trauma shows thatās trying to gouge as many bad emotions out of me as it can. pass
me listening to music or during sex: i do not want to be recognizable as the same after this is over
bluetooth headphones that report 100% battery with medic tf2's "i am fully charged!"
settling down to a nice homecooked meal of one Ultra Vice Guava Monster ⢠and 6 saltine crackers after a long day at the long day factory
okay iāve been on fedi a while but i think i actually have a bunch of others iām interacting with who donāt know me so iām making another intro post
hi!!!! iām rowan, a complete disaster anarchist vegan audhd kitsunegirl artist / game dev / literally whatever sounds interesting. in other words, iām completely insufferable!! as for identity: iām a nb trans fem voidpunk. iām also polyam and t4t sapphic/lesbian (not that any of this is a surprise around These Parts of fedi ). iām also a switch and occasionally post about my kinks (or very infrequently, iāll write little lewd/kinky stories).
i apologize compulsively, i have low self esteem, and iām diagnosed with half of the dsm5 with the other half pending. iām told that iām really weird in a cute way but i only believe the weird part. if you wanna know more about this youāll have to ask, sorry :3
iām working on a (not so) Super Secret Videoed Game and will occasionally post about that. in fact, iām usually working on something because itās really hard for me to not feel productive, so expect lots of that!
administrating a Linux server is worse than CSS and JS combined
related, but Iāve been having DNS issues with duckdns and others have been reporting the same, so you can now also access #GAGSProject through https://gags-search.xyz/
so if youāre having problems with https://gags-search.duckdns.org/ , try using the new URL instead. it should be faster and better
I found a group of people very passionately talking about how much they hate it when writers base their fictional worlds on the real world, and how horribly lazy they think it is, and how any writer that does that is a loser, and so on and so forth, and all I can think is āokay. so?ā
to be clear, I do think truly original worldbuilding is wonderful and I always love to see it. I just donāt understand at all how someone could think of that as the bare minimum when:
A: itās as difficult as it is even for the most creative of people
B: even the most alien worlds are still always tied to reality one way or another, whether or not the writer intended it
C: the real world is as ridiculous and sometimes unbelievable as it is anyway
and D: there are so many great stories that reality never told, and telling those stories often works best in a world resembling our own
you know what I think is lazy? fiction thatās just straight up in the real world. why would you ever want to write what is essentially fanfiction of reality? are you so uncreative that you can only imagine things when itās feasible that they could have happened outside your door? and on the other hand, why would you ever want to read this kind of fiction? are you so unimaginative that anything that you donāt immediately recognize and could point to on a map makes your brain short circuit?
I jest, of course. everything I just said sounds ridiculous, right? I think that group I encountered sounded equally ridiculous
though there was a grain of truth there, I personally really donāt enjoy real-world fiction very much. I want things that are new and interesting, but I also appreciate many aspects of the real world, and I think worldbuilding that uses reality as its base of inspiration is a great way to play with that
my own world is (currently) inspired by parts of the real world, and I donāt feel lazy for doing that, I feel that itās given me many opportunities to learn things about some world history and cultures that I never otherwise would have, because I put a lot of thought into this thing so I could create something unique, believable, and recognizable, all at once. itās still my world, after all. I built it, I didnāt just take it
I can foresee certain types of people hearing me say this and responding with something about escapism, so I also want to point out that this is specifically not about escapism. if I, or anyone else interested in this type of worldbuilding, wanted pure escapism, we would be writing high fantasy or some such, stuff thatās completely detached from reality (on the surface anyway). I specifically donāt want that though, there are things I want to say and perspectives I want to explore here, in this world, and I donāt think trying to do that in a completely disconnected world would be the same, because that clear, grounded recognizability is part of the message, and it would be missing that way. if the only two acceptable kinds of fiction to you are 100% realism and 100% escapism, then you have a skill issue, writers and readers alike
thereās one thing I can probably agree with that group on though. it is lazy to just copy and paste something from the real world wholesale and change nothing but the name. but thatās not what they were talking about at the time
A woman walks up to a librarian and asks, āDo you have the book on Pavlovās dogs and Schrƶdingerās cat?ā
The librarian replies, āIt rings a bell, but I donāt know if itās here or not.ā
i heard someone say āoouughhhā in a video and immediately i thought of @vivi