“what are your preferred pronouns?”

my pronouns are it/its, she/her, they/them, ze/zir but my preferred pronouns are whichever of those makes you most uncomfortable

this was prompted by a coworker asking my pronouns because he was confused at others referring to me as they/them and she/her. i told him that technically both of those are acceptable pronouns, “they/them” is only available to people who get my pronouns first hand by asking me. she/her is the only thing everyone else has available because second hand stuff always has limited options