It's wild how queer people who think they're actually challenging the patriarchy and shit will have these misogynistic ass double standards for lesbians and sapphic relationships.

The main thing I can think of is how lesbians get accused of being biphobic all the time.

I'm not discounting that some lesbians are biphobic...

But like, have you ever considered that most women-attracted men literally think that you're attraction to women isn't actually valid, and you just do stuff with women for their entertainment?

...and a lot of times, the accusations of lesbians being "biphobic" is generally just us not being attracted to or not wanting to be around men.

Like, you can have a boyfriend or date/fuck a guy. I just won't tolerate his disrespect or him violating my boundaries. Oh, that's a problem? Gotcha...

@spinach it'll be somebody with like 8 different pride flags on their profile asking some sanitized version of that question.

Weird also how whenever these complaints are lashed out against lesbians, the solution is often to just date men, instead of other bi/pan/omni women/femmes/etc.

It's kind of like you just, despite being attracted to women as well, just want to date solely men because you find heteronormativity and the proximity to patriarchal power comforting, and your biases allow you to overlook men's bullshit while you "hold women accountable".

Its kinda like despite all that profound ass queer awakening you had, you are a boring ass, run of the mill, dime a dozen misogynist with the words to decorate your misogyny.

@salad_bar_breath This is soo f-ing true. Sapphic relationships in a lot of the queer community are seen in, like, two modes: 1) not quite as real as others, or 2) Too extreme and separatist.

I have a fair number of lesbian friends, and have seen these atitudes a lot over the year.

@salad_bar_breath i can’t help but feel that people feel entitled to women / femme individuals. lesbians and sapphic relationships seem like an affront because it’s a relationship where a (cis) man isn’t being centered or served. i have had my boundaries pushed and violated by cis men who feel entitled to me despite knowing that i’m not attracted to them. i am not suggesting this doesn’t happen to men, but it sure does seem to happen to women/femme people very often by comparison