i think an important part of respecting consent and boundaries is to start by assuming the most restrictive set of boundaries possible and respecting those until otherwise stated. even when permission has been given, things change – make sure that things are still permissible. i dont care if its a hug or handshake – just because they were okay with it at some point doesnt mean they’re always okay with it.

we should be doing everything we can to respect boundaries – especially the ones that havent been communicated. those are often the ones that have the most guilt and shame wrapped up in them. theyre the ones that we feel like we’re not allowed to have. go out of your way to respect those.

default deny all firewall type consent